(In Dr. Arlene’s words from WIN Without Competing! and “No Competition,” UCLA Magazine)
When I was six years old, my dad, a cantor in a synagogue and I would walk hand in hand through the streets of my hometown Brookline, Massachusetts, the birthplace of John Fitzgerald Kennedy. I watched him greet and talk with person after person. After each conversation, he asked me, “What did we say?” He did not want me to recall the words that were exchanged, but the meaning behind the words. He wanted me to explain with whom he was “dealing” so I would never miss the “real” message.
Later in life, I realized the significance of what my dad taught me. I had learned how to “read” people with very little information about them, a necessary skill if you are trying to figure out whether they are the Right Fit for you or could be the Right Fit, after successful negotiations.
My dad’s teachings continued. When we went to the market, I learned to shop with standards. The focus was always on high quality. For example, I knew exactly how to select bananas. I didn’t compare and contrast bananas to find the best. I excluded the bananas that were brownish and overripe as wrong fits. Then, I proceeded to search for those bananas that matched my dad’s specifications. When we finished shopping, we left the market with brown bags filled with Right Fits!
As I was growing up, I began making all my decisions implementing the Standard of the Right Fit, from selecting friends to moving to Los Angeles at age 21. My dad walked me down the Right Fit Road which motivated me many years later to create the Right Fit Method, the subject of my book WIN Without Competing!. Wouldn’t my dad be astounded to learn that his teachings enabled me to become a divergent thinker, a key component of creativity. And of course, the number one Dr. Arlene on Google!
According to your situation, ask yourself: Do I have the Right Fit job? Do I know how to find the Right Fit job? Do I know how to fix the job fit and turn it into the Right Fit job?
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